Choosing your path is often overwhelming, isn’t it? And especially if you’re dealing with a life changing event. Now, you’re supposed to “choose.” Choose a “path.” Sounds difficult, big and overwhelming. And so you get stuck. But you know intuitively that you want to move on.
So how do you choose a path?
You don’t. You choose, with the best of your abilities at the time, a step. Just one.
But wow. Getting yourself to the point of making a move, of getting unstuck, of taking that first step sounds difficult, especially right now.
So how do we engage your brain to take a first step? We go with your strengths. Whichever strength of yours you tap into, you want to answer the question: What’s one tiny step I could take to move me forward?” And this is key: Keep making the step smaller until you say “Oh, that’s easy. I can do that.”
Here are some practical suggestions.
Are you a highly verbal person?
Love to talk? Enjoy language, books, socializing? Use your strength. Talk with friends, talk to yourself, a voice recorder, write in your journal or gain insights with a coach; talk it through, getting your thoughts out of your head. Clarity comes for the verbal person when she takes it out of her head.
Draw it out. Map it out. Use a whiteboard. Create a Post-it note with one small step on each note. What do you see as a next step? What’s the picture of where you want to get to? What do the steps in between here and there look like?
Movement! Energy! Kinesthetics.
You may have this natural strength if you enjoy movement and speak with words that reflect energy. We can also often hear different levels of energy, depending on how they feel about a topic or a step, in this case. Where do you feel the most energy? What next step would stoke the fires? Rev up the car? Cause you to do dance with great energy? Move you along the path most easily?
Do you typically read about something before starting a new project? You’re going to want to do some research, read a book, blog, or website first. What piece of information would move you forward? What proof or research or expert would you look to? What checklist of steps of decisions you need to make would be useful?
We all have a mixture of strengths and ways we process what’s going on around us. Use your natural strengths to get yourself unstuck so that you can take a step which gets you closer to your new path and your new chapter.
All of this makes choosing a path easier – perhaps not effortless – but easier.
And after this time of change you’ve been going through, isn’t it about time something got a little easier and clearer?