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Book Reviews – Organize for A Fresh Start

Monday, February 11th, 2013

As one reviewer said, there are no “magic pills.” Much of organization comes from within ourselves. We can work with someone to pull out what works, what hasn’t worked and possibilities for sticking with whatever systems are put into place this time around.

It is a partnership, because only you know “you.” That’s true if you work with one of us privately. It’s true if you coach with us, or if you read a book. It and we have to resonate with you, for this to make a difference in your life.

So this may or may not be the book that resonates with you. I hope it is. I’ve assembled some reviews to give you a specific flavor for what’s inside.

 

Sue West

Certified Organizing Coach

Certified Professional Organizer in Chronic Disorganization 

In my early 60′s, I had just been laid off and wasn’t sure about what to do next. This helped me to think of the next chapter instead of only the last chapter of my life, that something was beginning and not just ending.I also made the connection between my space and stuff and what was going on, that making physical space for something new helped me to open up and allow the new things to come into my life. Most of all, it’s a mindset shift.

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I loved the author’s story about the “rusty nail” she hangs her keys on. This approach of the rusty nail is a metaphor  for how the author approaches organizing systems. Rather than begin an organizing book with “perfect” solutions, this book is about organizing in ways that are useful and practical in everyday life. If a rusty nail is what you have and will work for you, then that’s what you do.

 

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Let’s just say that this book was just what I needed.  Nothing can do the work for you, but when I was faced with a mountain of overwhelming responsibilities, Organize for a Fresh Start gave me just enough help to stay sane. (Or, at the very least, somewhat sane.)

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This book is not just about organization, but it’s about getting a fresh start, beginning a new chapter, for example if you’re expecting a baby, or if you’re getting, or recently got divorced.  I really appreciated this because I was divorced a couple years ago and I was starting over. This book is not only about removing physical clutter from your life, but emotional clutter as well.  There are motivational exercises to help you organize, like filling in blanks, creating goals, visualization. There is no one fix for everyone regarding organization. It’s about finding out what works for you.  I do like the organization tips in the book. The author goes from room to room giving practical advice. She’s a professional organizer herself and knows her stuff.

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I admit I have a few books on getting rid of stuff and organized and have made great progress. This book takes a different view that for me makes a lot of sense to me. She has you look at where you are in your life and what your need are going to be in the future. It is not just start in this drawer and count out this many socks kind of book.

All through this beautiful book are highlighted in blue little quotes that stick with you reminding you that there is no perfect way to do this it will be different for each person. She encourages you when you get burned out and just want to throw up your hands.

I love her no regrets question list on page 101. I have been in a pitching mode and gotten rid of things I so wish I still had. You will have a holding area for things you need time to see if it is right to let go or hold on to it. I like that she doesn’t boss you around she is gentle in her suggestions but very effective.

My office is the worst in the house and I am starting there with my boxes and positive attitude that where m life is right now it just makes no sense to be keeping about 50% of what sits there unused. She mentions and I have found one I have a donate box it is best to put it in the trunk right away out of site so I don’t go reconsider. There is a reconsider place and anything not 100% sure will go there for a time.

I highly recommend this even if you like I have started and are making progress with other books, this one adds new insights that are truly helpful.

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However, Organize for a Fresh Start, Embrace Your Next Chapter in Life was just what I needed for now. Can you imagine suddenly having to organize and completely pack up the home of a deceased family member, while also having to weed through the contents of a large storage facility, while also moving out of your own apartment while moving into a new house — which also required that I accomodate the household belongings of yet another family member?

Can’t imagine it, eh? Well, neither could I, but I still had to do it. Let’s just say that this book was just what I needed. Nothing can do the work for you, but when I was faced with a mountain of overwhelming responsibilities, Organize for a Fresh Start gave me just enough help to stay sane. (Or, at the very least, somewhat sane.)

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This is a well written book which is designed in a way that helps a person who is not organized become organized. I have gotten books before on organizing that, after I have read a few pages, have found there way into a stack of books never to be read again. I am using this book and I know where it is.

The book starts out with a premise that intrigues me. The premise is that organizational skills are tied to life changes. This is and was new to me. Most books on the subject just look at the organizational skills themselves rather than life circumstances involved causing the the need to organize and reorganize. Basically you either are organized or you are not.

The first chapter, “Live Your Life in Chapters”, talks about how organizing is an evolving process and representative of growth in our lives. It takes what for me is a chore and turns it into a positive affirmation of the growth I experience in life.

The book then looks at key factors to organization such as determining what to keep and what to throw out, where to store items, how to make efficient use of space in a room. It does this in the context of where a person is in his or her life and really helps a person to define what his or her needs are at the moment, knowing these will change over time.

The book also acknowledges that people reading it may not be organized and helps people like me get over my inability to be organized. It talks to me rather than lectures me.

The book has a great appendix with nine tools to help a person get and stay organized such as a room tour questionnaire which helps a person look at a room from a different perspective and a section on how long to keep records.

The best thing about this book is the layout. The book uses white and blue ink to make certain sections stand out. The type size is large enough to read without a problem and changes when important information is being used. The book is easy on the eye.

The designer did a great job. If this was done in black and white type with small text I would have resisted reading it. The author’s words combined with the book’s great layout makes me want to pick up this book.

This is a great book for people who have tried other books on how to organize but lost interest. This book has kept my interest and so far two rooms are better organized thanks to this book.

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For those who are facing a new chapter in their life and need a gentle voice guiding them on the approach to moving forward. Many folks are just stuck and cannot move forward because they do not know where to start. This book will help, in baby steps, how to proceed with decluttering and organizing. I recommend this book for anyone who has never organized his/her environment and as Dr. Phil says, “needs a soft place to fall.”

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More info – More links

Read a chapter

Table of contents

Purchases (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and many other sites; paper or Nook/Kindle/other e-reader available).

 

 

 

Fresh Starts – My Interview at “Oh, So Organized” with Linda Samuels

Friday, January 25th, 2013

“I didn’t realize how much was happening in my life until I told you what the last few years have been like.” 

“I’m stuck and can’t figure how to move on – plus, I don’t know what’s next. “

A feeling

… of needing to simplify, reorganize or let go of the past is often the result of some big life changes a client’s been through. She’s coming out the other side of these changes, and wondering what’s next. A wonderful way to blend the last chapter of her life with what she wants for her next chapter is to reorganize – Things,  Thoughts, and Time.

  

My blog this week takes you over to “Oh, So Organized!” with my colleague and friend, Linda Samuels, where I’ve answered some questions for her, on the topic of life changes, transitions and moving towards a fresh start.

 

These are her questions for me. The blog is here for my answers:  Ask the Expert: Sue West

  • You’re an expert on helping others navigate life transitions. What is your favorite tip for negotiating uncharted territory?
  • Fresh starts can be enervating or draining. What are a few strategies to help minimize overwhelm?
  • A clean slate is an opportunity. How can we prepare physically or emotionally to experience positive results?
  • Do you have a philosophy about new beginnings?
  • What has been your biggest personal challenge around second chances?
  • Is there anything you’d like to share about fresh starts that I haven’t asked?

And read the comments on the blog, too; to me, they add so much to this interview, making it even more useful with different perspectives.

Who is in this Ask the Expert series –  a word from Linda

“Last year the “Ask the Expert” feature was introduced on The Other Side of Organized blog! It quickly became a big success as we enjoyed inspiring conversations with industry leaders such as best-selling author Gretchen Rubin, time management guru Julie Morgenstern, and organizer and coach extraordinaire Denslow Brown. For 2013, the interview series continues with another dynamic group of experts. I’m thrilled to begin this year with author, coach and organizer, Sue West to share her wisdom about fresh starts.”

 

Please join us over at Linda’s this week !

 

 

 

 

Ready for more, after the blog interview? My book about fresh starts is available here: Organize for A Fresh Start: Embrace Your Next Chapter in Life.  Read a sample chapter and the table of contents to see if it suits your needs. Or organizing & coaching services – together! Coaching in our organizing meetings or purely by phone – that’s the piece that helps the new strategies stick.

Perspectives: Holiday Hangover? Tips to Unwind and Move On.

Wednesday, December 26th, 2012

Transitions no matter what kind are difficult.  This post and podcast are for you if you find it difficult to let go of 2012. What do I mean by that?

  • Your decorations from December aren’t quite put away. You just can’t seem to get that done.
  • You traveled over the holidays and the suitcases are still packed. And you’re not looking forward to dealing with that either.

Carol Williams and I have taped our podcast but we’ve also written up our main tips, which you can find below, if that’s your preference.

Holiday Hangover – Try Our Tips (click here)

Written Tips:

  •  Know what needs to get done – Separate the emotion of feeling overwhelmed from the facts of what needs to get done.
    • Back to our checklist!
    • Easier to invite support.
    • Easier to break up a “big project” into smaller tasks that fit into your busy calendar.
    • More to cross off – how great does that feel!
  • Deal with the emotion separately from the “to do’s” -
    • Packing is a necessity but how else might you emotionally close out December? Perhaps look at photos and reminisce first, which takes care of the emotion, and which begins your transition back to reality. Then unpack and do the laundry. It’ll be easier to get started.
    • Or call a friend and talk while you both unpack, do laundry or un-decorate.
    • Make it fun to un-decorate – Family, friends, a party, a race with a timer or music!
    • Assign chores and task to each other and pull everyone in!
    • Or make it a quiet time, just for you, to reflect on your year or your holiday and your vacations. What would you like to repeat next year? And definitely not repeat? What was frustrating and what could be done differently next year?What did you miss out on? And what will  2013 be about for you, your family, your business and other activities? What’s important now?
  • Purge as you put things away -
    • Any decorations you didn’t use? Why not? How long have they sat, lonely in their boxes, waiting for you to use them?
    • Who else could use them?
    • Can you take a photo of them and then pass them along, so you have the memory, but not the object?
    • Does each item actually bring  you joy? Or is it “should” energy?

If you’d like to listen …

For some calming words and practical advice you can use right away, we invite you to listen to our short podcast with a bit more detail … 6 minutes is what it takes.

Just click on this link>> Holiday Hangover – Try Our Tips (click here)

 

 

Thanks for being here with us.

Welcome to 2013 !

Carol and Sue

www.EfficientProductivity.com  (Carol)

www.OrganizeForAFreshStart.com (Sue)

Stay tuned by signing up at either of our blogs or use our email: ProductLifeTransitions@gmail.com

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Links to Prior Podcasts

The Holiday Season:

Ticket to Sanity – Christmas Countdown – The Week before!

CHUG thru your holidays

Breaking down the end of your year … 6 tips for the holidays.

Breaking Down Our Year – Small Business Owner Advice 

Breaking down the end of the year: Lists – Made more fun as a way to clear the fog!

 

Back to School Season:

Back to school transitions -tips for parents on scheduling life

Advice for Kids – Habits for School Routines

True student and family success

 

Perspectives –Back to School Podcast – from Two of Us!

Thursday, August 23rd, 2012

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu

Carol Williams (first picture) and I (second picture) are both professional organizers, both from New Hampshire, with long careers before this one.

We both strive to teach, empower and coach our clients. So why would we record podcasts together?

 

We could answer it this way:

“The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.” Norman Vincent Peale

Meaning – We are excited to be bringing you this joint podcast and while we’ll lead, we’d welcome your ideas to keep us on track.

 

 

 

Or we could answer it this way, for you:

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Meaning – There are lots of ways to look at a challenge or a problem. The one that’s right is that one that fits you.

 

Our aim:

*Free but useful and specific advice.

*Two different perspectives on the same topic.

*Relevance – Answers to questions we hear often.

*Occasional guest speakers with complementary expertise.

 

Free. Valuable. Simple. No strings.

We want you to know there are people out there who can assist or collaborate with you in ways you may not know about, or perhaps thought to be expensive. That said, expense is a matter of priorities, too.

Back to Schoool Transitions

Turn up your audio, put on your headphones and click on the link ! Just 8 minutes long; it’ll save you more than 8 minutes of time – promise!

 

Thanks for listening.

 

www.EfficientProductivity.com (Carol)

www.OrganizeNH.com (Sue)

 

P.S. More topic thoughts – Add yours!

Email us at ProductiveLifeTransitions@gmail.com

1. Perfection

2. Change

3. Promises to yourself

4. Balance

5. Priorities – making them

6. Reinvent yourself/2nd act

7. Letting go

8. Staying productive with AD/HD

9. Snatch back 20 minutes per day

10. Small changes in your life that will make a big difference

11. Email- the real issues

12. Home routines- creating and maintaining

13. Empty nest – now what?

14. Decisions, decisions

15. Procrastination

16. Managing through life changes

17. Finishing stuff

 

 

 

 

 

the blue giraffe! And a book giveaway.

Wednesday, May 16th, 2012

This week, my blog post has gone visiting – over at the blue giraffe. The blog starts this way just so you’ll know what it’s about. Then click the giraffe or the beautiful hammock picture below to read the rest.

“External clutter is often a symptom of internal clutter. The mail that’s piled up is because your child was just diagnosed with a learning disability and you’ve got a lot on your plate now.
Or your mom now needs caregiving and you’re trying to figure out how to make her a priority, and still give your all to your family and your business.
Or a room no longer has a purpose. Or it has too many purposes going on at once.
Major changes and life transitions often bring on distraction, intense emotions and some overwhelming feelings.
And when that happens, whether the change has been of your choice or foisted on you, our stuff and our time can get a bit out of control.

The good news is that reorganizing is cathartic, not just for your physical stuff, but also for your internal, emotional or psychological ‘stuff.’ “

 

You can also click on this relaxing picture Wendy chose to accompany my article.

Wendy blogs about Interior Design, Redesign, Home Staging and Lifestyle and we first connected through mutual  colleagues – and over the topic of life transitions more recently, when she wrote a beautiful article on the topic.