Fascinating conversation yesterday, with five women, age ranges (guessing here) from mid 30′s to early 50′s. On this topic, we all felt the same way — about our own space in our homes, or lack thereof. We were talking about the popularity of “man caves” and the super duper playrooms for the children of the family. “And what about us,” was the question. Why don’t we ever think about having our own — I don’t know what we’d call it — our own space.
Sometimes we hear these comments from women we know:
“Well, I have the rest of the house.”
“I have my gourmet kitchen.”
“I have an inspiring home office.”
Think about your own home. Where’s that place, that room, that chair, that nook or cranny where you escape to? You want to or sometimes you need to.
You want to be alone, in silence to reflect or meditate, do your yoga or read with no interruptions, no requests, no email and no phone.
Or you want to have friends over, female friends, for wine or scrap booking, listening to music, or discussing grandchildren or downsizing or whatever you want.
Self-care: Aren’t we at our best for ourselves and for others when we’re rejuvenated and refreshed? When we have spot in our own home — not a gym we have to drive to, or a library to escape to?
Where is your hiding place?
Where’s that place you get to sloooow down your life? Put on the brakes for awhile. Get back to your “me zone.” Remember who you are and what you’re about? What’s important to you? Needs, values, priorities. Creativity, fun, passions, hobbies.
Open the window of your space and hear the birds chirping. Or look around your imaginary space and what colors do you see? What kind of energy are you feeling in the room?
Where are you sitting? What style of furniture appeals to you, in this “me” space. Doesn’t have to be child, grandchild or dog friendly furniture. The colors you know are for you and your soul.
What are you doing in this space? Quilting, reading, meditation, yoga, dancing, sitting still, playing a musical instrument, or journalling. What do you long to do you haven’t done in oh, so long. Get back to the passions and create the space for it.
First step is creating your vision … next step is finding the space at home. Stay tuned for ideas.
