Posts Tagged ‘Next Chapter’

Organizing & Life Changes: 10 Suggestions for Organizing through Change

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

Their daughter is getting married. Her partner was very ill and is coming home. Her business is in its own next chapter, as it grows into something different. She is looking ahead to surgery with a long rehab phase.

How does organization fit? Here’s what they’d tell you – it’s fairly similar from person to person.

They are organizing to move on – releasing some of their past, to make mental and physical space for an upcoming chapter – even if they don’t know what that chapter will hold for them.

This type of organizing is about mindset and values – what’s important now becomes different, as you move through a life transition. The past is a bit easier to let go of. The future is even more unsettling and unpredictable though.

How Does it Feel?

  • I’ve gained such clarity during this whole time. It’s so clear what I need to do. But there’s so much I want to do now. Where do I start?
  • I need more time to take care of me and it’s hard to find in my life right now.
  • I don’t know how I’ll fit in everything. My unpredictable schedule will be difficult to take in stride, even though I know I’m doing the right thing. How do I focus on “now,” and stay present for the one who needs me.
  • How can we reorganize my schedule, decluttering it so I have more time for what’s become more important.
  • Who can help – at home, at the office? So much I want to do to get the business to the next  level; where do I start?

Ten Suggestions

Changes interrupt our lives. These changes and transitions leave us with homes, belongings, and schedules that no longer work for us. Something is out of alignment, and we’re not sure what. Reorganizing to a new normal way of living (with our time and our ‘stuff’) can make the changes easier to take on, whether we reorganize home, office or schedules.

Your values relate to organizing.  Values help you figure out which belongings you really need in your life. Love to learn? Weed out and reorganize something else, not the books. Keep what you love, what gives you joy for life, what sustains and motivates you.

What is “organized enough” to you? Only you and your household get to be the judges of what is “organized enough” in your home. If you try to organize to someone else’s standards, you will not be as committed. And the systems will be harder to keep up with because they were not designed for you.

Why is getting reorganized important, particularly now? Your organizing systems will work best for you and you’ll be most motivated to declutter stuff or time when you tie organizing to your goals. Inspiring, motivational, and it gets done!

Build on what you know. Don’t ask what’s NOT working w/your organizing or systems. Ask what IS working and what ‘sort of’ works? Build on what’s there. Many systems at a time of life changes will be a ‘draft’ version anyway – temporary, as your life comes together again in new ways.

Be a role model. Organize you and your stuff first. Then help others in your household – you may be surprised at how much they notice and follow!

Time is fluid. What’s important to you now? That’s what to fill your calendar with. Forget about the future for awhile. Too much future thinking is overwhelming. And by the time the future arrives, will it be what we envisioned? Usually not.

Maintenance comes first. Sometimes your organizing system seems perfect …  until you realize how complicated it’s going to be to keep up with. Consider maintenance as you design new ways to stay organized.

It’s about you – remember to take care of yourself.  If you give up what makes you tick as you’re going through a life change, you’ll find your days more of a struggle. Whatever it takes – keep with some level of your exercise, your good eating, your perfect cup of tea, or your reading time when you’re going through a big life change. You may not be able to exercise every single day in the same way; but can you take a quick walk for 10 minutes? That may be all you need, but it IS something.  Find small ways to care for yourself, or ask friends if you can be accountable to them.

Organization, in times of crisis, can be a lifesaver. You can’t organize your way out of everything, but you don’t have to be a victim of circumstances either. Accept quickly that things are changing. Adapt your behavior, change your systems even if it’s temporary, and manage your schedule to some small degree. Doing something will help you feel more in control during these unnerving times … unnerving is due to change, any change, whether it’s a beautiful welcomed change or one foist upon you. Change is change.

 

Life’s Big Changes – Coach on Through to Your Next Chapter

Thursday, July 7th, 2011

Remain coachable. No matter how successful you are, there is always someone who can see what you cannot. -Cynthia Renee Frazie

Life changes … and then, at some  point, we realize we need to get ourselves organized  to move on. This is where coaching supports — organizing your life to move on, create a new chapter,  let go of enough of the past – but not so much you regret it.

Your partner or parent has left or perhaps passed away. Now what? You think you’re ready to move on. Your home needs to be “yours” but you don’t want to dishonor memories or move too fast.

You’ve been a caregiver or very involved in a parent’s illness.  How to use your time  differently now that you have more of it.

You’re divorced or soon to be. You want to make your home your own now. What’ s important? Where to start? How to tackle a whole house and make it your own.

You always followed someone else’s organizing systems for  bill paying, mail, time, house maintenance. You want to or need to take them on now, but where to begin? How to make them your own?

There’s a new and different energy in the household: children, grandchildren, pets or host children. How do you manage your very different household, all who live there, meals, bills, time, stuff?

You’re pre-empty nest or there now. What’s next for you? Creating a new life chapter but how and where to start.

Finally, you get the explanation, the AD/HD diagnosis: acceptance, new ways of organizing your days, figuring out your version of a life that fits you, organizing in new, organic ways that make sense to you.

Breaking big issues (or projects) into smaller steps. Where to begin. How to start and stay with it. You’re stuck and can’t figure out why or where to head next.

Career change to self-employment: You’re on your own and it’s just too flexible. Keeping your home/office boundaries clear (space and time). Controlling papers, piles, emails.

Self-employment — scaling up - taking next steps to grow your business. Some of us are creators. Some create order out of the chaos created by the creators. And some will maintain. Which are you best at?

Motivation, procrastination, stalling, not getting started or staying stuck – You want  it to change.

Organizing your time and your days differently – for more productivity at work or for better balance/grounding in your personal life.

Not sure how coaching for organizing works  or not sure it’s for you?

Call to explore.  No charge to explore …and no selling.

If it’s a fit, we will both know it.

603 765 9267 or Sue@OrganizeNH.com or simply register to receive blog updates and get to know more.

“Coaches have the ability to view things from afar – in what
some call ‘helicopter vision’ – and to shed new light on
difficult situations. Often they can act as a sounding board
through tough decisions, help sharpen skills, and motivate.”

from CFO Magazine



My Book: Organize for a Fresh Start – Embrace Your Next Chapter

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

Your life is full of different chapters. As you move through these chapters, priorities change, as does your mind-set about your belongings and your schedule and activities. When this shift happens, it’s time to reorganize.

People call these “chapters” by different names:

  • “big changes”
  • “life events”
  • “life’s crises”
  • “next phase”
  • “second act”

Whatever your name might be, your life is in transition.

It’s not enough to make it  through the  big event – whether it’s a divorce, empty nest, or welcoming a new energy into your home (grandchildren, children, puppy, or parent).

While the event  or the change is difficult, the transition is harder and longer, but it can also be an adventure, a fresh start, a new phase you get to design.

It’s that place in between the old chapter and the new chapter—the before and the after, leaving the big change behind but not knowing what is next. It’s a place of limbo where you’re not through the changes and you’re not quite into your new chapter.

Reorganizing gives you a fresh start. Naturally, we think about ‘weeding out’ our things which we don’t need  to bring forward with us into this new chapter. And that’s hard enough. But we also need to consider how to use our time in new ways.

For example, your children are off  to college or on their own with families. Your primary role, how you thought of yourself, your identity – was tied up with taking care of them and then teaching them to become independent adults. Now what?

Or your parent recently passed away, after you’d been a caregiver and then a visitor to his or her new home. All that time spent together – and now what do you fill your days with?

Your small business is doing great – so well that you’re ready for a new chapter. And that  changes your role which affects how you use your time.

Reorganizing is so helpful in dealing with  life’s big events.

It’s not simply a “nice to have”—it’s an essential practice.

  • Organizing is cathartic. It helps you process your emotions. As you go through your things and your calendar, you’re not only thinking about whether to keep or let go, you’re thinking about the transition itself, the emotions, what you’ll do next, and how you’re managing.
  • Organizing gives you a sense of control, which, in the context of a life transition, is at a shortage, or may not even exist at some points.
  • Organization means allows you to focus your energy on the transition and the emotions. Organizing gets you moving and makes you an agent of positive change in your home. You are no longer a passive bystander to your big life change.
  • Organizing focuses you on what’s truly important as you move into the transition, rest in it, and as you move out and into your next chapter of life. You gain clarity.

I coach my clients that organizing is part of your support system, whether you’re clearing the clutter, reorganizing, or changing how you use your time. Organization is a means to an end, not the end.

And in the words of coaching and organizing clients, reorganizing your stuff, time, and/or space . . .

• Helps clear the fog.
• Helps you put your life back together.
• Helps put your new life together.
• Helps you let go more easily when you know what’s important to keep.
• Helps you visualize the new place you’re headed more easily.

So think about it: what’s one small step you could take, to help clear a bit of that  fog? What’s one step forward? One small thing you could take on to have your surroundings or your time reflect the person you are becoming?

My book, Organize for a Fresh Start: Embrace Your Next Chapter in Life is about just this topic – and is due out this October.

Organize for a Fresh Start

Organize for a Fresh Start: Post Divorce

Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

Doesn’t it feel great when you reorganize  some “thing” – a junk drawer, your linens, your desk, your mail? It’s cathartic. It’s all under control. You stop thinking about it.

This post is about moving on by using your organizing skills to support you as you emotionally and physically move onto your next chapter.

Reorganize your home and your life/time to reflect the new you.

Reorganize your home and this will bring you out of the fog and overwhelm you’re probably feeling.

Reorganizing creates hope that your life can change.

“Moving on doesn’t necessarily mean moving away from the person you were;  it means moving toward the person you’re becoming, towards something and someone closer to your heart.” Kimberly Merritt, Beautiful Living

Control is soothing when we’re in transition

Most of your mental energy goes towards surviving the transition itself.

With great organizing systems supporting you,you’ll have more control over the basics of daily life.

And control’s probably at a premium right now, isn’t it?

You likely don’t have as much control right now in other aspects of your life,whether separated or divorcing.

The systems keep you from worrying about the small stuff in life, which only add to your energy drain.

“When one door closes, another opens;but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell, American inventor


Reorganizing your home reorganizes its energy

You may have negative energy or plain old yucky feelings as you walk through the home you two shared. What is your home saying to you, if it could talk?

Or maybe you’re in a new home and on your own. Starting with a blank slate.

Change it up. Figure out YOUR favorite pieces and use them everywhere you can. Showcase YOU and what brings you good feelings.

Over time, bring in more and more of who you are becoming.

Redecorating is common at this stage. Changing colors and fabrics builds your spirit, your enthusiasm and can dramatically affect your mood.

Reorganization is about how you live effectively.

Now’s the time to reach out; you’ve already got a lot on your mind.

Seek out both an organizing coach and take design classes or seek out a local interiors expert.

When Kathryn and I worked together…

…she had one foot in the previous chapter of her life and a toe dipped into her next chapter. Her goal was to let go of more of her husband’s things, the furniture he liked more than she did, the things she knew she’d never use.

To make her home her own.

We changed the energy in her home, and did some coaching to begin her move forward to her new chapter. Values and needs. Understand what she loved about her life and what she wanted to explore for changes.

Did she know exactly who she was becoming when she started organizing and coaching  with me?  No. It unfolds over time.

Here is what she did know, which is a place to start:

She knew she was becoming a woman who owned a home by herself. She had choices. She had  survived and would do more than survive going forward. She was brave.

And she deserved another chance at her own  happiness.

“ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” — Author Unknown

So start here as your beginning of a new chapter:

What do you know about what you want?

What do you value most about yourself, your relationships, and how you like to use your time?

Who are you becoming?

What are you aware of, as you reflect on yourself moving through these experiences?

Organize for a Fresh Start: Embrace your Next Chapter in Life

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

Just received this beautiful flyer including the cover of my book!

Will be shared at my organizing presentation tonight — the first group to see the book cover!

BOOK-COVERIf you want to join us at the talk it’s tonight in Hudson, NH. No charge – at the library.

Organizing on the Go

How often do we say “I need to get more organized.” “If I were more organized then I could…”

But getting organized sounds so big, overwhelming – or maybe we’re not sure where to start.

And who has that time available anyway?

Organization can be accomplished by using small bits and pieces of time … on the Go.

Thursday May 5, 7-8pm @ Rodgers Memorial Library Hudson 603.886.6030