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Why Our Things Are Important to Us: Guest Post, Melissa Mannon, ArchivesInfo

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

A guest post from my colleague, Melissa Mannon, author of The Unofficial Family Archivist.

Some of what you keep has more significance to you than other items. You know the materials I mean — the lock of hair from baby’s first haircut, the photos of your first Christmas together, the love letters you sent your husband before you were married. People spread these keepsakes through the house in closets and bureaus or we try to store them together in a shoe box under the bed. The objects symbolize some of the things that are important to us and we keep them because we have a sentimental attachment to them. As an archivist, I help people explore the idea that it is worthwhile to give more thought to what we are keeping for the long term. I help people determine why they are keeping these items and how to keep them safe.

We intuitively know that our personal “archives” are different from our other possessions. The materials we create in the course of our day-to-day activities help mold our own personal story and highlight our place in the world. The information that we record about ourselves helps us wind our way through life and can be part of our personal legacy. Some of these materials are used over and over. For example, a favorite hand written recipe passed down from one generation to the next might be pulled out to help celebrate during the holidays. Other recorded information might serve to remind us of something that occurred in our lives that made us happy. The material might not be actively used, but is tucked away until you want to recall or share an event.

When viewed as lone items, these materials do not necessarily highlight what makes us unique. Many people have a passport, but when examined with vacation photos, and a travel diary, the passport gains a new dimension. Together, the objects tell about our own personal experiences and perhaps our own world view. Archives that relate to each other can be gathered into a collection that highlights your story, making them more meaningful to you and to those with whom you wish to share your memories. When we think about these possessions in terms of the stories that they tell, we can more easily organize them and our thoughts about them. Possessions are imbued with additional meaning when we step back and consider their role as symbols of activities.

You might keep materials related to events that were meaningful to you. Or, you might keep information that highlights specific times in your life. You might keep your school report cards with your student art work alongside your varsity letters. Understanding what you are keeping and what part of your life it highlights can help you give order to your belongings and to your life.

The materials that you identify as worth keeping should be kept as safe as possible. All organic items, such as those made from paper, will decompose over time, but one cannot easily predict the rate of deterioration of materials. Their deterioration relies on a combination of factors working together: heat, humidity, light, pollution, pests, natural chemical reactions and chemical reactions resulting from improper storage are prime culprits of damage. Different types of items may require different storage supplies for their safekeeping, but there are some general rules to follow. Store materials in a place where temperature and humidity remain as constant as possible and keep items away from the elements. Purchase boxes for storage from a reputable archives supplier such as Gaylord Brothers, Light Impressions, Metal Edge, and University Products. These companies conform to standards and test products to ensure that they are safe for your materials. People often purchase items in stores that claim they are “Preservation Safe” or “Archival,” but these terms are not necessarily to be trusted.

Giving a little thought to your significant papers, photos, and other family information sources will help keep your treasured family memories safe. Focus on what is most meaningful and get rid of the clutter. Carve out your legacy by making sure your family stories are documented and preserved.

 

For more on how to organize and preserve your family papers, take a look at Melissa’s new book, The Unofficial Family Archivist

Follow her on Twitter, or subscribe to her wonderful and fascinating blog. You won’t be sorry.


 

You’ve Already Made the Decision -You Just Didn’t Know it

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

Working with people on their papers, I’ll often ask the person to say their thoughts out loud. I’ll encourage him/her to do the same, when I’m not there – whether family/co workers are around or not.

I do this for several reasons, but today’s article supports one in particular. That is, that we often have already made a decision about what to do with the paper that’s in our hands – we just don’t know it yet.

We just don’t know it yet, but our brain’s decided.

So speaking out loud allows  us to hit “pause,” slow down our thinking, and say out loud what’s in our head about the paper. And, for those of us who are verbal processors, it’s even more important! T

Take a look — from MJ Ryan, the “Change Expert.” The Brain Lowdown on Creative Thinking and Good Decision Making

Oh, and on another point she makes, about where we get creative ideas: I get mine very early morning or in the car!

Organize for a Fresh Start: Post Divorce

Tuesday, May 24th, 2011

Doesn’t it feel great when you reorganize  some “thing” – a junk drawer, your linens, your desk, your mail? It’s cathartic. It’s all under control. You stop thinking about it.

This post is about moving on by using your organizing skills to support you as you emotionally and physically move onto your next chapter.

Reorganize your home and your life/time to reflect the new you.

Reorganize your home and this will bring you out of the fog and overwhelm you’re probably feeling.

Reorganizing creates hope that your life can change.

“Moving on doesn’t necessarily mean moving away from the person you were;  it means moving toward the person you’re becoming, towards something and someone closer to your heart.” Kimberly Merritt, Beautiful Living

Control is soothing when we’re in transition

Most of your mental energy goes towards surviving the transition itself.

With great organizing systems supporting you,you’ll have more control over the basics of daily life.

And control’s probably at a premium right now, isn’t it?

You likely don’t have as much control right now in other aspects of your life,whether separated or divorcing.

The systems keep you from worrying about the small stuff in life, which only add to your energy drain.

“When one door closes, another opens;but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell, American inventor


Reorganizing your home reorganizes its energy

You may have negative energy or plain old yucky feelings as you walk through the home you two shared. What is your home saying to you, if it could talk?

Or maybe you’re in a new home and on your own. Starting with a blank slate.

Change it up. Figure out YOUR favorite pieces and use them everywhere you can. Showcase YOU and what brings you good feelings.

Over time, bring in more and more of who you are becoming.

Redecorating is common at this stage. Changing colors and fabrics builds your spirit, your enthusiasm and can dramatically affect your mood.

Reorganization is about how you live effectively.

Now’s the time to reach out; you’ve already got a lot on your mind.

Seek out both an organizing coach and take design classes or seek out a local interiors expert.

When Kathryn and I worked together…

…she had one foot in the previous chapter of her life and a toe dipped into her next chapter. Her goal was to let go of more of her husband’s things, the furniture he liked more than she did, the things she knew she’d never use.

To make her home her own.

We changed the energy in her home, and did some coaching to begin her move forward to her new chapter. Values and needs. Understand what she loved about her life and what she wanted to explore for changes.

Did she know exactly who she was becoming when she started organizing and coaching  with me?  No. It unfolds over time.

Here is what she did know, which is a place to start:

She knew she was becoming a woman who owned a home by herself. She had choices. She had  survived and would do more than survive going forward. She was brave.

And she deserved another chance at her own  happiness.

“ Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” — Author Unknown

So start here as your beginning of a new chapter:

What do you know about what you want?

What do you value most about yourself, your relationships, and how you like to use your time?

Who are you becoming?

What are you aware of, as you reflect on yourself moving through these experiences?

Connecting our Values, Our Stuff & Our Family Stories

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

The things we save give shape to our lives and reflect who we are – our interests, our values, our activities, our relationships – to our families, our communities, and to future generations.

Your personal papers, memorabilia, and artifacts are part of a unique individual history.  Today, we document the culture people will read about in decades and centuries to come; history is about us, you and me, not just about famous people who did famous things.

Life in Context: Telling Your Story is a Facebook group dedicated to helping you discover what is important to you. My colleague Melissa Mannon of ArchivesInfo and I  started it as an outgrowth of our workshops together. People wanted to continue to share.

Tell your story, share in a like-minded community, and share your cultural experiences.

By connecting our “stuff” with our stories, we can start to figure out what’s important to keep or not. What’s important to share with cultural institutions, our families or the organizations we belong  to.

What we save takes on a broader meaning and so can be easier to let go.

Or, if we are  the informally elected “family collector,” as we learn the history of the objects, photos and papers we  become clearer about what we need to keep and preserve.

My latest post is copied below:

Four generations of women: me (the little one), mom, “Baba” (my grandmother who just turned 99), great Grammy Nichols, great Auntie Grace.
The baby? My little brother.
Baba & her mother were both widowed around age 50. And Baba also lost her father at a young age, rumored suicide – victim of the Depression.
We held three generation lunches for about 10 years, from the time I was in my mid-20′s: mom, me, grandmother.
4 generations
And the post which inspired mine:

Melissa Lowenthal Mannon

This is a photo of my grandmother and an unidentified little girl. I was named after this strong woman who escaped from Poland during WWII with my grandfather.
A story I remember mom telling me when I was young is that grandma dressed as a peasant woman and smuggled food and medicine into concentration camps.
I hope that I remember that properly because it has stuck with me for a long time and has affected me deeply.
The little girl in the photo may be my aunt, who did not make it through the War…so many stories are fading into legend through faulty childhood memories and unlabeled photographs.
I think I will celebrate Women’s History Month by working to get the bits of the story mom knows down on paper this month to make sure we document what we know.

Please join us !

Facebook community page: Life in Context: Telling Your Story

A Life in Context

Friday, January 28th, 2011

It would be fascinating to be an archivist. Short of that, I get to work with one on a workshop we’ve developed together over the past year.

Because of my collaboration with Melissa Mannon at  ArchivesInfo, I have a new set of questions as well as a new perspective – particularly related to items of family history.

I typically ask people to consider sentimental and financial value of items they’re not sure whether to keep  (among many other questions; I’m simplifying.).

When we simplify our things, it behooves us to separate emotions from the objects. It’s also useful to take emotion out of the decision making process when possible. Otherwise, we tend to keep more than we wanted to.

Since working with Melissa, I’ve  broadened my perspective to include historic value, a fact versus an emotion. People often say that their things don’t have much historic value. “We don’t have anyone famous in our family. So … what historic value are you talking about?”

In 150 years, how will people know about us, how we live, what was important, our culture, mores? How do we know about those who came before us? We document our culture today by what we preserve for the future.

In your local newspaper, you’ve probably seen requests for identifying people in “old” photographs. They’re not famous people. The photos aren’t that old sometimes (1940′s, 1950′s high school photographs appear in my paper). That’s us.

How do you  know what’s valuable to the family, to the  communities to which your family belonged, to documenting the culture we live in?

So as you simplify your life, think about these new questions.

  • Would you like to know that you’ve shared beyond your own family and contributed as a cultural heritage partner?
  • How important is it to you to be the family’s collector or historian? How do you feel about this role?
  • Has someone in your family asked to have these items?
  • Are there other materials with the same information? (Copies in better condition? Information in a different format?)
  • Do they reflect an important activity of the times?
  • Do you know the accurate story associated with these items? Or, could you find out more information from a family member?
  • Were they created by someone with a special connection to an event?

I’m very excited about our workshop; we’ve had great participation to date. And, it merges my interest  in exploring our past, passing on legacies and family history, with my specialty in organizing for your next chapter- moving on by simplifying. Melissa’s expert knowledge of what, why and how to record and preserve our history mixes beautifully.

Oh, and plus I get to hear Melissa’s expertise each time we prep and give the program.

If this is your interest, we have a facebook page called Life in Context and are building a “family collectors” community there.

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