“Self-care” — I first heard this phrase a few years ago in my coaching program. And then there’s “Extreme self-care” which I first heard of from my co-presenter Amy Medling, a health coach, and which I would apply to times of crisis, life changing events or crazy busy phases we sometimes have. My latest podcasts with my colleague Carol Williams focus on self-care and how to create time for it.
Today, I’d simply like to share ideas and questions for you to come up with your own definition for taking care of yourself.
A list of ideas can spur one’s thinking. This is my list, nothing official, just from work with clients and on myself.
- Are you seeing a primary care regularly – medical, naturopath – whatever your choice.
- What age/stage of life are you … and what issues are likely to crop up for you? What are you doing to plan ahead so you’re not in crisis?
- Nutrition/eating: acknowledging and honoring allergies, tolerances, weight and energy even if you’re the only one in the household with these issues.
- How important is walking, exercise, or movement to you to your health and to your mental health? (Yoga, dance, seasonal sports)
- Awareness – through meditation,visualization, body scans or yoga.
Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.
- Connecting with the outside, in nature
- How do you clear your mind to stay focused?
- What techniques do you have for letting go of difficult conversations or emotions?
- How do you keep track of all you need to keep track of in life and in your work?
- How confident are you in your home or work systems which help life run smoothly for you?
- How do you open your mind to learning and curiosity so you’re always growing?
- How much do you take from the work you do: does it drain or add energy or something in between? What’s next?
- What roles do you have; which are you comfortable with? Which do you need more support for?
- What professionals are in your life to support you? Therapists, coach, respite care, trainer, medical/health experts, babysitters, etc.. Who is on your team?
- How do you deal with anxiety or similar challenges?
- Have you dealt with old feelings – family dysfunction, divorce, grief – or are they getting stuffed? How could you deal with these once and for all? What would that do for you?
Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to pray in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul.
The Spirit of You:
- What do you do for friendships you want to strengthen? From taking a 1/2 day off together to dinner out to mini-retreats away from it all.
- What do you do for fun? What did you used to do? Is there enough in your life today?
- How accepting of yourself are you? How demanding? Does this feel balanced and realistic?
- What do others say about you? Do you believe it?
- Are you the person you want to be?
- What gives you joy; how often do you take those opportunities?
- What makes you laugh? Are you doing that often enough?
- Who are you not getting enough time with and how could you change that?
It isn’t until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are – not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within – that you can begin to take control.
In each area, where are you now ?
- Do you have the knowledge or ideas you need to get started yet?
- Contemplating getting started but not sure how to begin?
- Can’t even contemplate – too much to think about.
- Beginning to think about creating time for one or more changes.
- Already in some form of ritual or routine but difficult to keep up.
If you now listen to some of our self-care podcasts, you’ll get ideas for how to work self-care into your days, how to get started, how to make the time and much more. Each podcast is audio and also written out in the blog; each lats 5-8 minutes at most and typically has 4 key suggestions to focus on.
Go here to begin listening. All podcasts are in the category called “Perspective Podcasts.”
If you’d like a one-on-one discussion or coaching around creating time for your own self-care, please call 603.554.1948 or email Sue@OrganizeNH.com
Sometimes, one call is all it’ll take to process ideas for where to start. If you’re working on new habits or behaviors, it’ll take longer.