Harmony at Home

Square One: What Do You Want from Your Time?

Monday, May 21st, 2012

…Let go off this notion that life is solely about paying the bills, having responsibilities & essentially going through the motions… approaching every action and decision from this point of view limits your personal growth & overall life experience to a minimum.

This is a mindset that is keeping people locked in one spot, functioning, but not living. Once you start seeing life as an adventure, everything changes. You will believe in yourself and in your skills and you will put them to use for something meaningful & fun.*

My theme this month has been life balance. This quote is a beautiful reminder.

How often do people tell me that they barely have time to handle regular work and household and family responsibilities – never mind the “higher values” of life, the things they would do on their adventure, as Anne-Sophie says it.

Often!

I’ve seen a shift over the past few years in my client base. More and more people are focusing on how they’re using their time.  Are they getting done what they want around their house,  to make it a home they’re proud of? What are they getting out of their time? How much is about their priorities versus others’ ideas of what their priorities should be? Is it all they want out of life?

More people seem to feel they have their “things” under control, except when a big life change occurs sometimes. And now they’re more focused on their time.

There are so many techniques and tricks and strategies to organize your life and to get things done.

But the first question is: what do you want from your time?

 

**Quoted from a guest blog by Anne – Sophie Reinhardt over at The Change Blog, a personal favorite.

Not sure where to start? Try time management coaching with me (by phone or in person, locally). First 1/2 hour is a no charge session to experiment, meet each other, and see whether there’s a fit.  After that, one session at a time, as we together figure out how you’ll measure progress and success. Click here for info, email Sue@OrganizeNH.com or call 603.554.1948.

the blue giraffe! And a book giveaway.

Wednesday, May 16th, 2012

This week, my blog post has gone visiting – over at the blue giraffe. The blog starts this way just so you’ll know what it’s about. Then click the giraffe or the beautiful hammock picture below to read the rest.

“External clutter is often a symptom of internal clutter. The mail that’s piled up is because your child was just diagnosed with a learning disability and you’ve got a lot on your plate now.
Or your mom now needs caregiving and you’re trying to figure out how to make her a priority, and still give your all to your family and your business.
Or a room no longer has a purpose. Or it has too many purposes going on at once.
Major changes and life transitions often bring on distraction, intense emotions and some overwhelming feelings.
And when that happens, whether the change has been of your choice or foisted on you, our stuff and our time can get a bit out of control.

The good news is that reorganizing is cathartic, not just for your physical stuff, but also for your internal, emotional or psychological ‘stuff.’ “

 

You can also click on this relaxing picture Wendy chose to accompany my article.

Wendy blogs about Interior Design, Redesign, Home Staging and Lifestyle and we first connected through mutual  colleagues – and over the topic of life transitions more recently, when she wrote a beautiful article on the topic.

Book Recommendation: Launching Your Child from High School to College

Thursday, May 3rd, 2012

Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College

 

I’m working with several clients on time management during their child’s last year of high school as the parent begins to think of their own next chapter.

This book has come up several times as recommended by clients so I thought I’d share it with you.

 

 

 

 

Update to My Post Yesterday on Life Balance Boards

Tuesday, May 1st, 2012

In yesterday’s post, you saw my own life balance board (or as I’ve named it in my PC files, my “balance beam” board. Remember in gymnastics class, how hard it was to balance on the one or two inch wide balance beam?). Today, I’m sharing my terrifically creative sister-in-law’s board; she is a creative design professional. She’s the one who got me started, so here is her own version.

 

If you missed the post that explains all this, go here first.

 

Creating Time for Fun – Life Balance

Friday, April 27th, 2012

As you move onto a new chapter – say your adult children are all off to college for example – you’ll need to spend time creating new interests or getting back to older passions.

I’ve discovered a new and more immediate use for a vision board. Creating time for fun and life balance.

I was visiting my terrifically creative sister-in-law, Joanne Hus, a creative design professional and as I walked into her oh so gorgeous home office, I noticed her life balance board right away.

After looking at hers, and hearing about her board, I realized that I was missing something.

Vision boards remind us of who we want to be. Or what we want more of in life. Boards have favorite sayings, pictures, values, and words of inspiration. They are inspiring, as is the process for deciding what goes on your vision board. My vision board is discussed here.

What was missing for me? Something more immediate that would help me with life balance. Although I love my “work,” what is it that makes my non-work hours so special, so interesting, so enervating? What do I do with my time off? What will refresh and rejuvenate my energy in between vacations, or as I work towards those loftier vision board ideals? Or how do I take smaller steps towards those vision board ideals? Enter Joanne.

This is a picture of my new life balance “board,” along with (upper right) my supplies: scissors and post-it note flags. 

 

 

Not as filled up or beautiful as Joanne’s is YET, but it’s already working for me.

I adopted the idea from Joanne, who showed me her magnetic white board version when I stayed with her and my brother recently before an author’s talk I was invited to give in Connecticut.

I noticed she had some sense of a timeline on the board. The time seems to go from left to right, so the later events, where she had more time to get to are further to the right. See the post-it note flags on my board? That’s also adopted from Joanne as a way to highlight when the exhibit is over or when she wants to think about going.

A  natural way to match how we read, left to right. And a nice mixture of left brain and right brain!

I’ve tried so many ideas over the years to remind myself of what I want to do.

Remembering to look at it

You still have to make the connection between wanting to go somewhere and getting yourself there. What I love is that Joanne’s is right near her computer and so her calendar. As she walks into home office/studio, she walks right by this board, before she can sit at her desk. A visual reminder!

Mine will be hanging in my home office, since that’s also where I do my household management and scheduling for my personal life.

Stay tuned… but so far, it’s working!

Microsteps

  • Find your board – poster board, magnetic, white board
  • Grab your scissors
  • Get your post-it note flags or cut up your post-it note pads
  • Find a spot to gather and hold onto things you want to do
  • Start it up!

Or are you thinking that this is a great use for Pinterest? This article (link here) is about vision boards, but think about this approach for life balance.

Resources/more reading I enjoyed

How do you refresh and rejuvenate? In Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking the author points out that how we refresh and rejuvenate is linked to how much of an introvert or extrovert we are. Introverts will generally find their energy again by seeking out quiet time and space. Extroverts get back with people to build up their energy again. (This by the way is the true definition of these two terms, not “shy” versus “gregarious.”) And as with all labels, we are a mixture of both.  (It’s interesting to me that when I read a book, I watch my world with a different lens or perspective for as long as I’m reading that book.)

From a favorite site, The Change Blog: 5 Items that should be on everyone’s bucket list

Vision boards on Pinterest – but consider using Pinterest for your life balance board instead.

Need ideas for hobbies? Discover Your Passions – a quick quiz might start you thinking.