Downsizing Dilemmas- Solved

the blue giraffe! And a book giveaway.

Wednesday, May 16th, 2012

This week, my blog post has gone visiting – over at the blue giraffe. The blog starts this way just so you’ll know what it’s about. Then click the giraffe or the beautiful hammock picture below to read the rest.

“External clutter is often a symptom of internal clutter. The mail that’s piled up is because your child was just diagnosed with a learning disability and you’ve got a lot on your plate now.
Or your mom now needs caregiving and you’re trying to figure out how to make her a priority, and still give your all to your family and your business.
Or a room no longer has a purpose. Or it has too many purposes going on at once.
Major changes and life transitions often bring on distraction, intense emotions and some overwhelming feelings.
And when that happens, whether the change has been of your choice or foisted on you, our stuff and our time can get a bit out of control.

The good news is that reorganizing is cathartic, not just for your physical stuff, but also for your internal, emotional or psychological ‘stuff.’ “

 

You can also click on this relaxing picture Wendy chose to accompany my article.

Wendy blogs about Interior Design, Redesign, Home Staging and Lifestyle and we first connected through mutual  colleagues – and over the topic of life transitions more recently, when she wrote a beautiful article on the topic.

Products: Uses for Smead’s 10 Slot Organizer

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

Even in our virtual world, many of us use paper for certain kinds of activities, at home or at the office. Clients usually will tell me “I’m a paper person” or “I’m really more interested in getting more onto my computer.”

So like the right brain/left brain discussions, most of us have a dominant preference for paper vs. PC, but we still use the other for certain tasks.

So for our papers: Smead sent me this Project Organizer and asked me to write about it here. I’m happy to do that because I can see myriad uses for the product which I’ll share with you here. Smead is a Corporate Partner with the National Association of Professional Organizers.  I see them at our product expo;  for a long time I’ve been impressed with their product innovations and their interest in understanding our clients’ needs.

 

A short description first: My photo is of the organizer standing  upright on my office floor.

  • Inside front cover: a summary sheet. What needs to get done, by whom and when.
  • 10 slash pocket folders. I love slash pockets because you have a preview of the folder’s contents. 
  • Expandable bottom binder, so as you fill this with papers, the whole thing expands. I love that it’s vertical because access is easier.
  • Each slash pocket has space for papers, and the pocket itself has space right on top for “Notes.” A little bit of guidance is useful.

 

Uses at Home

Homework: One binder per child keeps track of ten subjects, ten days or ten weeks of homework you want to review together. Add a laminated pocket to the  front of the binder and slide in a photo of your child, to identify which child’s binder is which. 

Home schooling: The teacher’s binder: ten  subjects or ten weeks of your lesson plans.

Taxes: Each section for different sorts of receipts and documents, with the folder staying near where you open the mail, and throughout the year.

Committees/volunteer activities: One spot, for all committees; one notebook to grab as you leave the house.  Or use the divided slots one per week, or per project.

Downsizing for a move: Use two binders, one for the buying side and one for the selling side. Or use one binder for the entire process with sections: Realtor-related, moving-related, expenses, new home research, etc.  Use the product as a “countdown” binder to your move date, with each section as a week’s worth of things to do. An inspirational quote on the front about next chapters helps with motivation for decluttering when needed.

Holiday countdown: As a holiday binder, I could see this as a weekly countdown, covering Thanksgiving and December holidays. Or, each section as a different aspect of planning: meals, traditions, budget, cards, decor, gifts.

 

Uses at Work or In Your Own Business

Clients for the week: One binder for the week, with materials you need on the go, for your appointments. Swap out the contents each week. Keeps your focus just on this week, and it means you need to do that weekly review.

Key projects or committee meetings: Same idea, but for the project side of your work. Use this for focusing on this week’s work. So for me, I might have  the next few workshops I’m designing or for the organizers’ chapter I head up here in New Hampshire.

On the road – conferences:  Use the  binder to take work with you. We all have some work that  is easier to work on, when it’s printed out. The binder is one place for your regular work, while you’re out at conferences or traveling.

Same as the home uses for taxes or committees. But use another binder for your business to keep home and business papers separated.

 

Answer these questions for yourself before buying any organizational product:

  • How exactly will you use the product (e.g., so here, how  would you use ten folders?). You wouldn’t buy a piece of clothing without knowing what size, so are organizing products any different? 
  • How do you typically organize your papers; what’s worked before will work again. The product supports how you work, think and organize your thoughts.
  • Where  will you keep the organizer, so you remember to use it. How will you start this new habit?
  • Do you like the style enough to enjoy using this product?  (Visual folks will relate to this subconscious aspect of choosing just the right product.)
  • Do you need something more specific to the purpose, e.g., a taxes binder like this the one pictured below, also from Smead. Take a look around their site; click on the taxes binder to get there.

What works for you?

 

 

“No, I Don’t Need Your Stuff.”

Wednesday, October 26th, 2011

When she was downsizing her home, my grandmother would bring goodies on her visits. I didn’t know she was downsizing for an eventual move at the time or that would have given me perspective, I’m pretty sure. I was just out of college at the time, so thinking ahead to my own space.

She’d bring me something beautiful I’d remember from my childhood, such as a small pewter cream pitcher. I could remember where that pitcher was placed on her built-in bookcases. Even without touching the pitcher, I could remember it’s cold, metal feel. I remembered the  stories she used to tell about the pewter ware in the family. And my grandmother, a widow at a young age, was at our house a lot as I grew up. Many fond memories.

So of course I took the pewter pitcher. And the little plates. And the candlesticks. And more.

How could I say “no,” to memories, to my heroine, to my persuasive Baba? I didn’t say “no,” for a long time.

At some point, I found the perspective, that, while she loves me very much, at that time, she was downsizing and needed to know if family wanted her stuff. I could have said “no,” and eventually, I did.

 

Saying no is an easy way to keep less, but it’s often difficult for us to do.

Some ways to say “no,” without using the word “no” – and still being clear that you don’t need someone else’s stuff.

You probably have a friend or colleague who has figured out how to say no, with grace. Ask them how they do it.

Or try answering the request this way: “What I CAN do for you is … but not what you asked.” For example, I gave Baba other ideas for where she could give away her things.  And she still loved me even though I said “no” more often than “yes”!

“I already have one of those. How about it you donate it to — your church, Goodwill. Ask your knitting group.” Focus the person on other groups she might enjoy giving her things to.

And questions to ask  yourself, before you say “yes” would be:

How many of these do I have already?

Where exactly will I put this?

Do I love the object? The memory? Or the person giving it to me? If it’s the memory, snap a picture. If it’s the person, find other ways to say “I love you.”

 

Of course, her needlepoint’s another story entirely.

 

What’s The Magic Organizing Number? Two Answers for You.

Friday, July 22nd, 2011

One Rose

I get this question often as you might imagine. People ask it in different ways.

“Is there a magic number for how long to keep my things? A year or something like that?”

There are two ways I can answer: (1) It depends.  (A favorite comment, from a terrific radio show co-host you might listen to, who interviewed me with her co-host.)  And (2) Yes, we can  come up with your own magic number.

It Depends…

On what the items are. Couple of examples to walk you through it.

Clothing: Sure, yes, a season makes sense. If you didn’t wear it last year during this season, do you need it, want it, love it, still like how it fits and  looks? More than a season and it may go out of style – or your style may change, too, especially if your work or lifestyle changes at all.

Toys – kids/grandkids: If they haven’t played with it in a year? Sure that makes sense, unless you have another child who is close to the age for playing with the toy. How about looking at “aging out” of toys.

Store aside the ones which are too old for a younger one coming up the ranks. Keep them, but out of your “everyday space.”

And always, with clothes and toys (and other  items), select your absolutely favorite ones – those which are really full of memories. People have saved: favorite stuffed animal from childhood (clients in their 50′s), clothing from high school/wedding (clients in their 30′s), and so forth. So, not all items are created equally, right? That difference is often what simplifying is all about. Still hard but that is the essence.

Books: A year old? No. It depends. Again, the aging out idea can work here. Certain book topics age out – technology, engineering, medical/health reference, history to some extent – any area which has change as part of its goodness and value to us.

But you know what -  if you love to read, if you are curious, and a learner by nature- why give up what you love most of all? Yes, you can go through the books and see if any of there are any easy decisions you can make.

Think about whether you want to reread a book. Maybe instead, you want to give that one away, and  make space on your shelves for a new interest or new author?

But then … how about simplifying (weeding out) something else in your home, which is not as important to you and who you are instead of the  books?

Come up with Your Own Magic Number …That Works, Too

Some people need this and find it a very useful to limit themselves, in effect to take away some of the decisions by using a number.

Examples:

  • I’ll only fill one drawer with pants. I won’t buy any more than that.
  • I’ll only own two red blouses.
  • I’ll watch one hour of TV at night.
  • I’ll spend 1/2 hour on Face book in the morning.
  • I’ll only have two backup boxes of that kind of pasta.
  • I’ll carry one credit card.
  • Four bookshelves is my number.

See  how it takes away the need to constantly make hard decisions?

So, yes, sometimes there is a magic number – but it’s not my number.

It’s one that you need to feel comfortable with.

Try it  out with a few different  numbers and see how it works for you.

Life’s Big Changes – Coach on Through to Your Next Chapter

Thursday, July 7th, 2011

Remain coachable. No matter how successful you are, there is always someone who can see what you cannot. -Cynthia Renee Frazie

Life changes … and then, at some  point, we realize we need to get ourselves organized  to move on. This is where coaching supports — organizing your life to move on, create a new chapter,  let go of enough of the past – but not so much you regret it.

Your partner or parent has left or perhaps passed away. Now what? You think you’re ready to move on. Your home needs to be “yours” but you don’t want to dishonor memories or move too fast.

You’ve been a caregiver or very involved in a parent’s illness.  How to use your time  differently now that you have more of it.

You’re divorced or soon to be. You want to make your home your own now. What’ s important? Where to start? How to tackle a whole house and make it your own.

You always followed someone else’s organizing systems for  bill paying, mail, time, house maintenance. You want to or need to take them on now, but where to begin? How to make them your own?

There’s a new and different energy in the household: children, grandchildren, pets or host children. How do you manage your very different household, all who live there, meals, bills, time, stuff?

You’re pre-empty nest or there now. What’s next for you? Creating a new life chapter but how and where to start.

Finally, you get the explanation, the AD/HD diagnosis: acceptance, new ways of organizing your days, figuring out your version of a life that fits you, organizing in new, organic ways that make sense to you.

Breaking big issues (or projects) into smaller steps. Where to begin. How to start and stay with it. You’re stuck and can’t figure out why or where to head next.

Career change to self-employment: You’re on your own and it’s just too flexible. Keeping your home/office boundaries clear (space and time). Controlling papers, piles, emails.

Self-employment — scaling up - taking next steps to grow your business. Some of us are creators. Some create order out of the chaos created by the creators. And some will maintain. Which are you best at?

Motivation, procrastination, stalling, not getting started or staying stuck – You want  it to change.

Organizing your time and your days differently – for more productivity at work or for better balance/grounding in your personal life.

Not sure how coaching for organizing works  or not sure it’s for you?

Call to explore.  No charge to explore …and no selling.

If it’s a fit, we will both know it.

603 765 9267 or Sue@OrganizeNH.com or simply register to receive blog updates and get to know more.

“Coaches have the ability to view things from afar – in what
some call ‘helicopter vision’ – and to shed new light on
difficult situations. Often they can act as a sounding board
through tough decisions, help sharpen skills, and motivate.”

from CFO Magazine