Life is full of transitions—expected and unexpected, self-imposed and imposed by others.
I never expected to own my own business.
I never expected to get separated and divorced.
I didn’t know I’d be living back at home for while in my early 40′s (but thank goodness for Mom and Dad).
Changing religions? Nope, also unexpected.
Let’s toss in a move to a different state…
becoming a motor home owner (before that, I would’ve said, “What’s a motor home?”)…
and a significant change at work where I went from working with clients to working on the product side.
Then eventually there was a major shift from corporate to self-employment.
I also became a first-time dog owner—three dogs at once, for the first time in my life—all in my early 40′s. (I grew up with fish and turtles, just to give you a sense of my pet owner skills.) I could go on.
There were nine major changes in my life in about 18 months. And I bet I’ve forgotten something along the way!
Transitions add the twists and turns in this journey of life. It’s the journey that counts, right? Hard to remember that as you’re in limbo for so long.
But it’s a transition. It’s going to last for awhile; it’s not an event, a point in time change. In fact, when people call me, they’ve usually been through several pretty big life transitions over a period of many months, a couple of years, sometimes longer. Sometimes we coach; sometimes we work, hands-on. Decide what you need.
It takes awhile to absorb all this change. So cut yourself some slack, please please please. Focus on you, your self-care. Work on making your home your own, as you move into the next chapter of your life. Focus on your surroundings, and the stress will decline. You’ll have control over your home — which might be the only thing you have a modicum of control over for awhile. So make your home a place you want to go to home to and not turn away from.When our surroundings are in alignment with what’s important to us , we’re in alignment mentally, too. When our home is organized and we have systems, we spend our time on the important things in life, not on major room pickups time after time.
Transitions are tough to go through, certainly. But once on the other side of the transition, given time, we’ll feel like we’ve conquered something truly significant.
And if we can do that, what else can we do?
Tags: moving on, Next Chapter, transitions
