Feeling the push and pull of life ? Starting to feel like a piece of paper stuck in the back of the file cabinet? Maybe the light comes in every once in awhile, but otherwise, phew, how trapped is this feeling? How do you put yourself back where you belong? Out front and center in the daylight.
(C) Sue West photo
We are back – Carol Williams of EpS, Efficient Productivity Systems and Sue West, AD/HD and life management coach. You can listen here: >>> What do you want ? … or read it below.
All our podcasts are 5-8 minutes maximum, and we keep them this length so that you get some practical strategies to put into use right away. Sometimes, we give you questions to think about, and always, we offer examples.
Barbara Sher said, “I could do anything if I just knew what it was.” And that is the title of one of her wonderfully written books. So do you know what it is you would want to do? That’s the first step, isn’t? So, the question (or questions) is, then, What do you WANT more of? Taking a step back, we have arrived at the WANT in the W+W+W+H = Woo Hoo! process.
We’ve talked about What gets in your way, Why you want to design your days differently, and now we are hitting WANT. What do you Want from your days?
By focusing on what you WANT, it becomes easier to eliminate what you do NOT want.
Here’s the first example. Perhaps you WANT more time. This is a common reason people come to Design Your Days. Well, we all KNOW that there are only 24 hours in every day, period. So how can we “make” more time? We can’t. We can, however, choose what we do with each precious minute in a very conscious manner.
One of my clients wants more time so that she “feels less rushed and more balanced.” One first step in determining how to help her choose her activities in “making more time” is to take an inventory. What is she spending her time on now? Are those activities adding to her goals and/or life satisfaction, or are they draining it? You, the listener, can do this. Try this exercise with every activity you begin for one week. Ask, will this energize me or drain me?
ELIMINATING activities that are low value yields much time, if time is what you want MORE of.
“I want to spend more time on my business, because ultimately, my goal is to leave my imprint or my legacy in the business I have built, not just to sell it to a future owner, but because of the skills and leadership I’ve taught people who have worked with me. These live on after us.”
And I also might hear from the same person: “I want more time with my grown children or with my grandchildren.” And “I want a less cluttered office space. The clutter holds me back from beginning my next chapter.”
So here, you might look at a typical week’s calendar and list of what you did, and guesstimate how much time you spent:
• working on the business versus in it;
• playing or relaxing with adult children and/or grandchildren;
• on dealing with clutter (lost items, doing things twice).
So your first question to answer is: How does this time picture feel to you: is it enough, too much or just right for each of these important areas you’ve identified?
You’ll need this to know where you are now, to know how much and where you need to shift your time. Without a starting point, how will you know you’ve arrived? Succeeded? You’re getting what you wanted?
(C) Sue West photo
Second question: What might be a “good enough” number of hours for the week or the month, to play in each of these areas?
How much is “enough time” for you to feel that you’re getting closer to your goal? Remember that goals begin with smaller steps.
Follow these suggestions, and you’re one step closer to redesigning your days and your time for what you want.
If these examples and suggestions struck a chord with you, we know you’ll get lots of benefit out of our Design Your Days workshop.
Our next public workshop is coming right up- on Tuesday March 18 at 9 am at the Academy of Design and Decorating in Peterborough, NH. Register or read more details about whether this is the right for you, by going to our workshop link here.
Or you can check our FB page, Design Your Days, which will point you in the right direction.
In the next podcast we dig deeper into the WANT question. What do you want more of, or less of? Be sure to listen ! We will continue to move through the Design Your Days process. At the end of about 12 podcasts, you will look back and find that we’ve provided an excellent overview of our process. For our other podcasts, you need only see the blog category to the right titled “Design Your Days: A New Perspective ( Podcasts).”